About Judi Schindler

A former marketing executive, Judi Schindler, is a past president and founding member of the Chicago Area Chapter of the National Association of Women Business Owners. She is a member of the Leadership Team of Engaging Speakers and the Advisory Board of the Chicago College of Performing Arts at Roosevelt University. She’s listed in “Who’s Who in America,” “Who’s Who in American Women” and “Who’s Who in the Midwest.” Follow on Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, Subscribe to “The Toilet Seat Must Go Down!”

Online Dating Turns Out to Be Full-Time Job

Photo courtesy of rawpixel on unsplash We've heard a few horror stories about dating online.  Meredith had a different experience. In her 20s at the time and starting a career in food service, she had very little time for a social life.  The dating apps seemed like a harmless way to meet new people, go new places and get her out of a rut. She didn't realize that it could take over her life. Signed up with two different apps, the young, attractive operations director was soon overwhelmed with responses, as many as 20 a day. She spent long hours replying to messages, reviewing bios, checking [...]

By |2018-06-13T00:26:34+00:00June 12th, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments


Photo Courtesy "In Touch" Magazine Remember Mary Kay Letourneau, the ex-school teacher/convicted felon, whose passionate affair with a 13-year-old student produced two children and a seven-year prison sentence? She and Vili Fualaau, who were married in 2005, are now just a typical old married couple. She's 56 and a paralegal. He's a 34-year-old part-time DJ who's thinking about a marijuana business. And, oh, oh, here's a surprise! The marriage is in trouble. The couple has been legally separated since June of last year. It seems that Mary Kay was not only the principal breadwinner, she also handled most of the parenting, finance and household responsibilities. Villi, [...]

By |2018-06-05T22:19:03+00:00June 5th, 2018|Uncategorized|6 Comments

Wedding Proposals Go Hollywood

Photo courtesy of Unsplash. When did jaw-dropping marriage proposals become a thing? I'm talking about proposals that take place during bungee jumps, on mountain peaks, underwater, skydiving or water skiing.  I am also referencing full-blown productions that are professionally choreographed, directed and video-taped. Go on line, and you'll see photos of a guy, who dressed himself and 47 of his friend as carrots, to perform a dance routine for his beloved as a prelude to the proposal. Then there's the young Russian who hired a screen writer, film crew and stuntman to fake his death before coming back to life and popping the question. Visit YouTube [...]

By |2018-05-29T22:32:36+00:00May 29th, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Want a laugh? Scroll Instagram

I'm currently obsessed with Instagram.  I'm taking an online course, which advises that I spend at least five hours a day, posting on my own feed and liking and commenting on other feeds in my niche.  It's a full-time job.  I'm exhausted. On the up-side, I've run across a lot of amusing marital wit and wisdom.  Here are some of the best IG posts under #marriagehumor.  Enjoy!  (And, for the love of God, follow me at www.instagram.com/husbandsmanual/) Now here're a couple of my own IG posts for your amusement. Got a good quote of your own on marriage?  Be sure to let me know.  And share these with someone [...]

By |2018-05-23T20:27:25+00:00May 23rd, 2018|Uncategorized|2 Comments

Little Reality in Reality Dating Shows

Scene from "Dating Naked," which ran on VH1. I'm not a big fan of reality dating shows. I don't think I ever watched a full episode of "The Bachelor" or "The Bachelorette."  So, imagine my surprise when I ran across an article recalling 43 dating shows I never knew existed. The article, which ran on the lifestyle blog, "Beamly," covered gone and best-forgotten programs such as "Dating Naked," which featured strangers dating strangers in their birthday suits; "Age of Love," that matched up a 30-year-old man with a group of  women in their 20s, and a group of women in their late 30s to 40s to [...]

By |2018-05-16T16:53:14+00:00May 16th, 2018|Uncategorized|1 Comment

Dating in the 21st Century Cases #6 & #7

Photo by Huy Phan on Unsplash In our ongoing effort to explore the current dating culture, we've heard about a variety of first-dates that went no further, due to fetishes, concealed marital status, unexpected nudity and public crying (his, not hers). Today we discover that second dates can have their downside as well. Case#5 Brenda couldn't believe her luck.  She met Dwayne online.  He was tall, good looking, well-spoken and took her to a trendy new restaurant.  (She's a bit of a food snob, so this was big plus.)  They talked.  They laughed. OK, in retrospect, he seemed a "bit off," she admits. The second date?  [...]

By |2018-05-08T22:58:42+00:00May 8th, 2018|Uncategorized|2 Comments

Sexual Harassment: What Can Good Guys Do?

Photo by Mihai Surdu on Unsplash Up 'til now, I've been reluctant to weigh in on #metoo.  After all, it's been a long time since a 50-something employer chased a 20-something me around the office shouting, "who're you afraid of, me, or yourself?" I'm now prompted to speak by the overwhelming pervasiveness of the issue and the confusion it is generating in some men. Every day there's a new outrage, with charges of inappropriate behavior hurled at seemingly inoffensive men. (Garrison Keillor, for God's sake!) Then there's the recent online survey, which reveals that 51% of women say they've been subjected to inappropriate touching and 77% [...]

By |2018-04-30T23:45:17+00:00April 30th, 2018|Uncategorized|2 Comments

Is Bitchy Humor Dead?

Bette Davis with real-life husband Gary Merrill in "All About Eve." It's been said that all my cultural references are dead people, which is highly unfair.  Only the good ones are dead. This week I made a valiant effort to find pertinent quotes from contemporary funny ladies such as: Amy Schumer, Sarah Silverman and Tina Fey.  While these are highly entertaining women, their one-liners lack the bitchy wit of previous generations. For that we must turn to the self-proclaimed tough broad herself, Bette Davis, who famously said, “The best time I ever had with Joan Crawford was when I pushed her down the stairs in Whatever Happened to Baby [...]

By |2018-04-24T19:11:03+00:00April 24th, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Weird Wedding Rituals from Around the World

Unless they manage to hitch up before a judge or magistrate, couples are rarely permitted to tie the knot without submitting to one or more outdated custom, designed to bring them health, good fortune and a tiny measure of humiliation.   This is true around the world. Here're a few examples: Germany Following the ceremony, a young German couple is required to work together to saw a log in half.  According to Southern Bride Magazine, the act is designed to demonstrate the bride and groom's ability to work together.  Presumably, the wedding is annulled if one of them loses a finger. Fiji In Fiji, the bridegroom must gift his [...]

By |2018-04-17T23:30:49+00:00April 17th, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Dating in the 21st Century: Cases #2-#5

Photo courtesy the Daily Mirror. Since writing Case #1 in the ongoing saga that is modern-day dating, I've been inundated with stories about on-line mis-matches and first dates that quickly became last dates. There's the married man, pretending to be single, who arranged to meet at a neighborhood bar.  Five minutes into the conversation, he leaned over to ask if she liked oral sex. Then there's the elderly gentlemen who came out of the bathroom totally naked.  When his date was not impressed, he upped the game with some body poses he must have practiced in front of a foggy mirror. She left before he could [...]

By |2018-04-11T10:57:25+00:00April 11th, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

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