Veal Parmesan and Other Indignities

Marriage is hard. As anyone who’s been married for more than a couple of decades will tell you, it’s very hard. You must be prepared for bad behavior (yours as well as his) injured egos and occasional neglect.

When I was a 22-year-old newlywed, I thought it was my job to come home every day from work and prepare my bridegroom a proper dinner of salad, meat, potatoes and vegetables. (This was the ’60s after all.)

Every night I dutifully brought forth a two- or three-course meal, which my new husband would immediately reject. I discovered he didn’t like meat that had been frozen; he didn’t like leftovers; he didn’t like casseroles. The list went on. One thing he did like, however, was veal parmesan. Couldn’t I make that?

So, one day I found a recipe. I bought the veal, pounded the veal, breaded the veal and sautéed it. I made two sauces. From scratch. I grated the cheese. That evening, I presented my day’s efforts to my husband in triumph. I was expecting words of surprise, delight and gratitude or, at the very least, a pat on the head. Instead, he said:

“Oh . . . I forgot to tell you. I don’t like veal parmesan anymore.”

As God is my witness, he never tasted it . . . never even lifted his fork.


Fifty-plus years later, I am still married to that man. I don’t cook for him anymore, of course. (I’m not insane.) But we’re still married.

The manual explains how to survive veal parmesan as well as other indignities, and why a long-term marriage is worth it in the end.

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A former marketing executive, Judi Schindler, is a past president and founding member of the Chicago Area Chapter of the National Association of Women Business Owners. She is a member of the Leadership Team of Engaging Speakers and the Advisory Board of the Chicago College of Performing Arts at Roosevelt University. She’s listed in “Who’s Who in America,” “Who’s Who in American Women” and “Who’s Who in the Midwest.” Follow on Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, Subscribe to “The Toilet Seat Must Go Down!”

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